Stop Waiting for Things to Be Perfect

Stop Waiting For Perfect

For as long as I can remember I have been plagued with self doubt, fear and procrastination. Until this year though, I never realized that perfectionism was the driving force behind all of my  discouragement.

Really, nothing about me is perfect – I lose things, forget things, and in general just mess up a whole lot of things. The problem is though, that I like things to be perfect. Actually, I LOVE  for things to be perfect – especially myself.

And, if I can’t do something well, I tend to just give up. For example…

  • I don’t blog because I built my blog myself and don’t like how I designed it and I can’t fix it.
  • I don’t write because I can’t get the words just right.
  • I don’t spend time with my kids because I feel stressed about the other areas of my life.
  • I don’t apply for writing positions because I don’t think I’m good enough.
  • I don’t exercise because I can’t keep a consistent schedule of it.

The list goes on and on. My obsession with self perfection keeps me from doing the things that I want to do and the things that I need to do. 

So where’s the hope?

“That is why for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong,”  2 Corinthians 12:10

In 2 Corinthians 12 Paul talks about God’s power being made perfect in weakness. Paul had some kind of weakness (he called it a thorn in his flesh – no one is certain whether it was a physical aliment or something different) that made him feel weak. He asked God to remove it from him 3 times but he said that “My grace is sufficient for you, my power is made perfect in weakness” 2 Corinthians 12:9.

Our weaknesses can bring great glory to God if we turn them over to Him and ask Him to work through us and make us strong. I know that if I am ever a good financial manager, wife, mother or writer it is only because God is working in me, through all my weaknesses. God can make you strong even in areas where you feel weak or afraid – read about Gideon or Moses in the Bible (I’ll post more on this another day).

Don’t allow Satan to leave you trapped in a pit of discouragement or procrastination – fight it with all that you have in you. You are worth it. You have value just because you are alive.

The truth is that no one will ever be perfect (even all those people who seem to have it all together aren’t really perfect). I encourage you to turn your heart to God and ask him to make his power perfect in your areas of weakness. If you are anything like me, it will be a prayer that you’ll need to pray dozens of times a day! 

In the comments let me know if there is an area of weakness that I can join you in praying for!

 

 

 

My New Year’s Resolution and Word of the Year – Perseverance


 IMG_0016My brothers helping on the ranch and living part of their dream

 

My great uncle Charlie was a man with a goal. He wanted to drive a truck at a coal mine. He stopped at the mine frequently, asking for a job. Unfortunately there never was an opening for him there. But, that didn’t stop Uncle Charlie. He continued to stop at the mine every week or two and ask for a truck driving job.

Finally, one day the mine foreman got so tired of seeing Uncle Charlie that he offered him a job.

“See all of those weeds over by the road,” he told Uncle Charlie in an effort to get him to leave for good. “Go pull them.”

Much to the foreman’s surprise, Uncle Charlie didn’t balk at the menial task or go home – he headed right over to the road and put in an 8-hour day pulling weeds.

By the end of the day, the Foreman was so impressed with Uncle Charlie’s work ethic, that he offered him a job driving a truck.

 

In the same way, my Aunt D had a dream of buying a trailer house, fixing it up, and flipping it.

Aunt D had lost a lot of money in the cattle market, and was praying for a way to make a fresh start. She found an old trailer house and knew it was a good deal. All she needed was the financing to buy the house.

Aunt D went to every bank in town for a loan, but they all turned her down. That didn’t stop her though. She did more research and brought more evidence to the banks proving she could make the deal work. Seven of the 8 banks in town turned her down for a loan again.

One banker though, was so impressed with her initiative that he took a chance on her and gave her the loan.

That loan was just the beginning of a successful real estate career for Aunt D.

 

My dad has a similar story. He grew up on a farm and always knew that he wanted to be a farmer. Unfortunately though, his folks didn’t live on a big enough farm to pass it on to him. My dad didn’t give up though.

He worked extra jobs, lived in cheap rental houses and saved money to reach his goals. He didn’t get to start farming on his own until he was in his late 30s (and faced many obstacles along the way), but today he is living his dream. He still works a full-time job, but he is farming and ranching just like he always wanted to.

 

I love those stories because they remind me of the perseverance needed to achieve a goal. Uncle Charlie, Aunt D or my dad would not have gotten to live their dreams if they would have taken no for an answer.

By nature, I am a dreamer, but I don’t have a never-give-up attitude. I’m quick to admit defeat when it comes to reaching a goal.

So this year, my biggest resolution is not to give up on my dreams. I hope to someday make a full-time career out of writing and I hope to live in the country with my family and own a few cows. They are big dreams that I have had for a long time. This year though, I am going to pursue them more than I ever have before.

On my blog this year I hope that I can inspire you to never give up on your dreams. I’ve lined up some interviews with successful people from many walks of life. I want to uncover what makes them tick and reveal the struggles and victories that they faced in an effort to achieve their dreams.

What’s your best piece of advice for achieving a dream?

My Verse for 2015

Verse of 2015

Clean Your House Before Christmas Challenge – Day 1

Christmas Clean

Even though we moved 7 months ago – and did a lot of stuff purging before and after the move – it needs done again!

It is amazing how fast new clutter can build up!

I took the challenge from Crystal over at moneysavingmom.com and hope to get my house clean for Christmas in 5 days  (I need some room for all the new little present that will be taking up space :) ).

Today I had hoped to clean all 3 of our bedrooms, but wound up getting a substitute teaching job, so I didn’t get too much done.

I started with the cleanest room – my daughter’s – and helped her get rid of some old toys she didn’t want. We reorganized her desk and dresser so that she could play more easily. Best of all – I checked off 2 things on my “to do someday” list – things I had procrastinated about. I cleaned the carpet and changed water in the fish tank. Those tasks took less than 10 minutes, but the thought of doing them had been bothering me for weeks.

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Tomorrow I hope to clean out my room and my son’s!

Are you planning to do any big cleanups before Christmas?

 

 

 

My 500 Words Challenge

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I have a lot of big dreams and big ideas. I’ve written thousands of blog posts and articles in my head, but very few of them have actually made it into my computer and even less have been published.

Sometimes I feel frustrated about my lack of follow through, but I am committed to learning more discipline! Over on his blog, Jeff Goins offers loads of encouragement for writers (and really, for people in all walks of life). I’m joining his 31-day challenge to write everyday. I hope you will check back in all month to see if I follow through with my commitment! I have so much to share about my life! I hope that I can get some of those articles I’ve written in my head onto this column this month!

The 3 Greatest Gifts My Parents Gave Me

 

3 Greatest Gifts

My husband, daughter, brother and mom all celebrate birthdays in September .

I really enjoy buying gifts for them, and I try to spend a lot of time coming up with presents that each one of them will really love. However, this month I was really stumped. I couldn’t figure out what to get any of the adults on my list (my daughter is easy – if it is a horse or a doll she is thrilled.)

As I tried to think of ideas, I began to recall some of the best gifts that I had been given. Some material things came to mind, but (maybe because I was working with some lazy teenagers that day) I realized some of the greatest things that my parents had given me during my lifetime were character traits. A hard work ethic, generous spirit, and hope for the future are all things that are a core part of who I am. I am so thankful that they instilled these traits in me (even though I didn’t enjoy it at the time)!

Hard Work Ethic

Whether we were at a 4-H meeting, church event, or family gathering, my brothers and sisters and I were always taught to pitch in and help. We set up tables, folded chairs and cleaned up before and after dozens of events. Though we weren’t happy at the time, my brothers and sister and I always cleaned out our own calf stalls at the fair too.

Laziness is an epidemic among teenagers and I can’t help but be thankful that my parents made me work hard and look for opportunities to help others.

Generous Spirit

My mom was always willing to bake something for an event or bring a dinner to someone in need. She never counted the cost of the ingredients or time. My folks are probably some of the most generous people on the planet.

I am not nearly as generous as they are, but I always feel compelled to increase how much time and money I give to others.

Hope For the Future

My parents are big dreamers. When I was growing up my dad was always thinking up a new invention or idea to make owning a few cows and farming a reality. To this day my dad is always helping me come up with new book ideas or ways to start an at home business.

Hope can go a long way to help a person during hard times. I am so glad my parents inspired me to hope big for the future.

Though giving my kids material blessings is a great thing, I also hope to instill in them some great character qualities – gifts that will last them far longer than a new doll, horse or tractor.

Embracing a New Season of Life

First Day of School

For years I knew that the day was coming, but somehow it still  kind of snuck up on me too.  My youngest child just started kindergarten.

I have been a stay at home mom for over 9 years, so this is a major life change for me. I feel pressure to get a job, to keep the house perfectly clean and to make great dinners with all of this newfound time that I have.  (Yikes!)

Getting a job (one that doesn’t require putting my kids in daycare during school breaks) is a lot harder than I excepted. I tried to get a teaching job, but didn’t get one.

So, I am stepping out and trying to be a writer. It is a big step for this type B personality – being disciplined to work at home full time – but I am excited to see where it leads! Change is hard, but can be exciting too!

What new season in life are you trying to embrace?

 

Our Big Move to Texas

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Our new rental house in Texas

Wow, it has been a busy last few months. Life has been a whirlwind of life-changing decisions since back in November 2013 when I last posted. We never thought that we would move out of Kansas, but we are now living in Granbury, Texas – about 12 hours from family and friends.

It’s been a wild ride! It has definitely stretched my faith in God and caused me to lean into him during all the uncertainty of life in 2014. I’ve learned a lot of the last few months and can’t wait to share more about moving, lizards, floods and armadillos ….